Learn to refuse
Why do we say yes?
We may think that we should do more effort on some days just to live in our fast-paced world, but when someone asks us about the reason for our unbearable stress, we answer that we are people with good intentions and want to serve society, but good intentions do not protect us from danger. Stress and that when we bear ourselves what we cannot bear, many effects occur under the surface and we do not see them without careful consideration. And we ask ourselves: Is this good enough? Have I made a good impression on them and in our attempt to reach perfection we try to do more: I'm going to do one more thing until they laugh at me, and one more thing, one more thing, until I collapse completely. Well the reason is we try to be Acceptable in our society or to be accepted by a certain person that you try to imitate in everything, and this person is usually one of your relatives. Conditional between family and the Friends, this can help you to see your true self. There are two rules that mature people use to build a positive image of themselves:
success based on community standards:
0 and this rule confirms that the talented, handsome or rich person in our societies is among the successful people It is true that they are not considered deep values but they help you You have to build your positive image for others, but it is also competitive and not accessible to everyone because it is conditional: be like this to receive the respect of others.
Your value as a human:
being About you and she sees in you a center of creativity and excellence as you are able to absorb knowledge, develop skills and make changes for the better. From my point of view, this rule is better than the previous one because it demonstrates above all your ability to make the lives of others and your life well. And this point is very important, regardless of your wealth and fame, that a human being is above all. Say no: when someone asks you to do something Makes you feel less comfortable Say: I'm sorry I'm going to decline your request but I can't do it Handle every social situation with the realization that you don't have to say yes every time say no because you already have another job to do Say no to establish a pattern of healthier habits That being said, one of the toughest no-nos will help you break your old habit of saying yes. And you, before, bear more than you can handle or can afford. Saying yes constantly to the requirements of others will let them control you. So whoever you said to him (I will do this work for you) will not hesitate to ask again. Also, you do not have to constantly say no in order not to disrespect others. For you, it is a matter of priorities, nothing more. The person who arranged a job interview for you, who asked you for money for a critical surgery, does not say no, I will not go to the interview or no, I will not give you money.
Beautiful thing:
In the end, you have to know that no matter how unsuccessful you are or whatever You were without wealth or fame, this does not make you submit to anyone. You have a strong free will and that you can now say no to all those who take advantage of your good intentions with exploitative motives. You have to be aware of your suit and how strong it is. Just accept yourself as that and do not try to please Everyone you know, there are people who deserve to tell them, “Fuck you all” and there are people who deserve your full attention (you just have to differentiate them)