teenager thinking
As you already know, we discussed about adolescence and its external and internal forms, and in this article we will delve deeper into the thinking of adolescents. There are values that differ from one person to another and their arrangement differs for each person. There are those who play electronic games more important than studying, and there are those who have parties and staying up late more than working and sleeping enough, and there are also those who have their work more important than their family and life. The order of these values changes with the experiences that a person experiences and with time as well. Of course, I cannot tell you which values are better than others. This is up to you and the way of living and society as well.
Values in adolescence are not sufficiently disciplined as they are not valid for all circumstances and times. Here we return to the thinking of the adolescent. If his values are undisciplined, his thinking will also be undisciplined. About himself, such as doing his homework so that he does not deserve to be punished, or like being well-spoken in order not to embarrass himself in the end, the road will be blocked in front of him because his thinking is not in line with the bitter reality that they are short moments of temporary happiness and self-satisfaction It is an attempt to avoid pain, as he does not want to be harmed (here I mean emotional harm resulting from a disagreement, a relationship, or even a family) and it may sometimes become exploitation as the teenager will do anything to not receive that pain (as he has experienced this pain before) Whether this abuse is in a relationship, friendship, or situation that is important to him.
The primary product that made the teenager embrace these ideas (trade bartering) is the effect of a shock that happened to him in the above, as he will see the world as a means and when that means ends with their benefit, they will forget it forever and this is a mistake. Since he received a shock before, he will avoid getting close to society and the family as well, because he does not see any benefit from them at all, and so forth, thoughts of abandonment and loneliness begin in his mind, but he will see later on his wrong values and replace them with values that are less wrong than before, and here the parents should care their adolescent son because at this stage the teenager will look for a source of attention and if he does not find it in his parents (and the wrong belief here is the parents’ belief that their child has become old and no longer deserves attention as before, but this is a big mistake because the teenager is the one who needs attention) He will look for another source of interest that he might find in a girl, a friend, or even an anime series. They should monitor their children in adolescence and make them feel that they are not alone and that their interest is not limited to childhood only.