society and teenagers
Adolescents have a distinctive experience with society, of doubt, certainty, acceptance and rejection. There are those who are accepted and adapted to society, and there are those who are rejected by society out of motive if their way of thinking does not satisfy society's standards. I cannot judge that one society’s method is better than another, because every society differs from the other in dealing with adolescents, including those who accept the teenager with all his flaws and develop his skills and improve them for the better. There are also societies that make the teenager act according to his personal character, which leads to great chaos for both parties. In the following, I will discuss the positives and negatives that the teenager is exposed to from the society itself, and this does not depend on one society, but I will include all of them with some as much as possible.
What the teenager suffers from:
Our teenage friend is going through real crises in society, the first of which is the lack of acceptance, especially in very strict societies. Being a teenager, your mind is open to new things outside the scope of your society, but the strict society does not allow this, and the chances of them accepting that teenager are very small, but not only acceptance, but that Affiliation also there is a difference between a person who belongs to a society whose beliefs are similar to the beliefs of the society and someone who has a special belief other than the beliefs of his society is somewhat weak. It is worth mentioning here that if a teenager sees that he does not belong to his current society, he will search for a society or people They have the same beliefs that he has. I do not blame him personally. He who is not accepted by a society will search for another society that accepts it with its flaws, and here comes the second crisis, which is uncertainty, as he is no longer a child and everything becomes clear to him. He will doubt everything around him and not know what is true about him. The mistake was what his family used to say to him in the past that he was good and useful for him, today it has become harmful and unhelpful for him in a broader sense, he is very confused and the results of that are many, including that he does not believe what is told him of true and false, and that he does not trust anyone, and the situation may worsen until that You see he's lonely He is skeptical of everything and hopeless to a large extent. Believe me, you should monitor this poor teenager, and instead of telling him that your thinking is wrong and that he does not serve this society, try as much as possible to make him not feel that he is alone, make him feel that there is someone to support him no matter what.
Society helps:
you know if the teenager is going through crises and pitfalls, well, I will tell you and the teenager himself now how to overcome these difficulties:
1) Parents should educate the teenager about reality more that reality has sad moments more than happy and that the world did not wait for him to understand what is around him. Unfortunately, we see now at the present time most parents do not focus on this point, which contributes to creating a generation that faces these difficulties without prior knowledge.
2) If the teenager has an opinion other than the opinion of the community or his family, this does not mean that the opinion of the society is correct and the opinion of the teenager is wrong, and I mean the opposite also because it is possible that the adolescent may have an opinion in which there is a possibility of error. And to be with his personal opinion times, he has to balance the two.
3) The teenager and the society should know that life will not be destroyed if they are at odds and that they do not accept each other (it was pointed out here that the adolescent sometimes also does not accept his society), but the teenager should have a source of affiliation and not sever the link between him and his society. Between his society, how it was in the end, your society is the one who completes you, and the society of its members completes it